Anniversary Necklace Ideas: 8 In-Stock Picks by Style and Year

An anniversary necklace works best when it is small, wearable every day and specific to the two of you. That usually means an initial, a heart, a birthstone color or an engraved message on a fine chain, in a metal she already wears. The eight pieces in the table below are all in stock now, and the sections after it explain how to choose between them, what to write, and what each year of marriage traditionally points to. The same goes for the card: for ideas on what to write to a wife, see birthday wishes for your wife.

Scope of this page: necklaces only. If she would rather have earrings, a bracelet or rings, our guide to anniversary jewelry gifts for her covers every jewelry type by relationship and budget. For gifts that are not necklaces and stay under $80, see anniversary jewelry under $80. For the words to go with it, see our anniversary wishes for wife.

Anniversary necklace picks at a glance

Stones in these pieces are cubic zirconia or lab-created, never diamond. We do not sell solid gold necklaces, real diamonds or swim-rated jewelry, so if you need those, this is not the place.

How to choose an anniversary necklace (what actually matters)

The four things that decide whether a necklace gets worn are the personal element, the metal, the length and the base material underneath the finish.

The personal element

A necklace feels like an anniversary gift, and not a generic one, when it carries something only the two of you understand: her initial, the first letter of your shared surname, a birth month, or a short engraved phrase. The Love Knot Heart Necklace has its message built into the piece. The Heart Initial Necklace and the Initial Tag Necklace carry a letter you choose.

Match the metal she already wears

Look at what she wears every day for a week. If it is yellow gold tones, choose a gold finish; if it is silver or white tones, choose silver or rhodium. A mismatch means a necklace that sits in a drawer, however thoughtful it was.

Length

If you are unsure, 16 to 18 inches sits at or just below the collarbone and works with most necklines. The Heart Initial Necklace adjusts from 16 to 18 inches, and the Love Knot Heart Necklace is 16 inches plus a 2 inch extender. The Soulmate Necklace adjusts from 18 to 22 inches.

Know the base metal

Sterling silver is an alloy of 92.5 percent silver and 7.5 percent other metals, usually copper, according to a public reference encyclopedia, and it can tarnish over time because it reacts with sulfur compounds in the air. "Gold plated" describes only the thin outer layer, so always check what is underneath. Our product pages state it: some pieces here are sterling silver, some are stainless steel, and one has a brass pendant. If a seller will not tell you the base metal, skip the piece.

1 year anniversary necklace

For a first anniversary, choose something small and personal rather than elaborate: the Heart Initial Necklace at $34.99, or the $25.99 Dainty Heart Necklace if you want it plain. Two reference sources disagree on what the first year stands for (one names paper as the traditional material, a gemological nonprofit names gold jewelry), so a gold-finish necklace fits the jewelry reading without forcing the paper one. For ideas built around the paper tradition itself, see our paper anniversary gift ideas.

Our dedicated page, which personalized necklace is best for a first anniversary, compares the personalized options in more detail.

Anniversary necklace for her: wife, girlfriend or fiancée

For a wife, the engraved Love Knot Heart Necklace or the open-heart Soulmate Necklace are the most gift-like: both arrive gift boxed with a printed message card, and you can pick one of the card designs or leave it blank to write your own. For a girlfriend, the initial pieces say "I thought about you" without making a long-term promise. The wider gift pages cover the relationship side: anniversary gift for wife and anniversary gift for girlfriend. For girlfriend necklaces by style, see our necklace for girlfriend guide.

Anniversary necklace ideas by year

Year lists differ by source. A public reference encyclopedia gives these traditional materials: paper (1st), leather (3rd), wood (5th), tin or aluminum (10th), crystal (15th), china (20th) and silver (25th). A gemological nonprofit instead names gold jewelry (1st), pearls (3rd), sapphire (5th), diamond (10th), ruby (15th), emerald (20th) and silver (25th). They do not always agree, so pick the one that suits her and treat the list as a hint, not a rule. For a year in the middle such as the seventh (wool and copper), see our 7th anniversary gift ideas.

For the pearl milestone, see our 30th anniversary gift ideas. For every year in one place, see the hub: anniversary gifts by year. Planning to renew your vows? See our vow renewal ideas.

Personalization: what to engrave or choose

Short is better. A single letter, a first initial of each of you on two pieces, or the words already on the Love Knot pendant read cleanly. Birthstone pieces work for her month, yours, or the month you met or married: browse the birthstone necklace collection. Initial and personalized pieces are final sale, so double check the letter before you order.

For heart styles without lettering, see the heart necklace collection, or the full pendant necklace collection and anniversary gifts collection.

Returns, in one line

Unworn pieces in original packaging can be returned within 30 days, and return shipping is free. Initial or personalized pieces are final sale.

Frequently Asked Questions

What is a good necklace for a 1st anniversary?

A small personal pendant: an initial or a heart. The Heart Initial Necklace ($34.99) or the Dainty Heart Necklace ($25.99) are simple starting points, and a gold finish fits one reading of the first anniversary tradition that names gold jewelry.

What is the best anniversary necklace for her?

The best one is the one she will wear daily: the right metal tone, a length of 16 to 18 inches, and something personal. For a wife, an engraved or boxed heart necklace with a message card is the most gift-like; for a girlfriend, an initial is a lighter choice.

I need a personalized anniversary gift under $80 that is not just a generic necklace. What works?

A necklace can still be the most personal option if it carries an initial, a birthstone color or an engraved message, and every piece on this page is under $60. If you want something other than a necklace, personalized earrings and rings are covered in our guide to anniversary jewelry under $80.

Are initial necklaces still a good anniversary gift?

Yes. An initial is private, wearable every day and never looks like it came off a shelf. Use her initial, your surname initial or a child's initial; remember that initial pieces are final sale.

Can I give a birthstone necklace if it is not her birth month?

Yes. You can choose the month you met or married, or a color she loves. Our birthstone infinity pendants, such as the September one above, are 925 sterling silver with lab-created simulated stones.

What length anniversary necklace should I buy?

If you are unsure, 16 to 18 inches. It sits at or just below the collarbone and suits most necklines. Choose longer only if she already wears long chains.

How can I tell sterling silver from a plated necklace?

Read the base metal on the product page. Sterling silver is 92.5 percent silver; "plated" only describes the finish, and the metal underneath can be sterling silver, stainless steel or brass. We state the base metal for each piece.

Ready to choose? Start with the Heart Initial Necklace, or compare more styles in the anniversary gifts collection.

Written by the AJLuxe Team.

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